Boys and Men are not toxic

Masculinity is not inherently harmful. There is nothing wrong with men liking stereotypical masculine things.

But…

some beliefs and behaviours associated with masculinity are harmful. It is harmful if the masculinity you embody is rigid and disconnects you from your emotions, ignores the need for community, and seeks to control others—this Re:masculine calls restrictive masculinity.

The work of Re:masculine invites boys and men to value and embrace their authentic emotions (when and where it is safe to do so), to connect with community, and to humanize and empower others.

The Topic of Masculinity Can Be Controversial

Re:masculine recognizes that exploring topics related to masculinity and emotions can sometimes be uncomfortable. While we don’t expect or even desire everyone to agree on all these topics, we do expect everyone (including ourselves) to demonstrate care and respect for all people.

We view discomfort as an invitation for deep self-reflection and personal growth, rather than as a reason to project our discomfort onto others. 

Re:masculine is committed to using non-shame based approaches and language. We believe the “us versus them” or “men versus women” mentality is very limited when it comes to working on restoring relationships with oneself and others.

Healing is contagious—as we heal ourselves, our relationships within our communities and wider culture can heal too. In this way, we all can benefit from the healing of others.

That said, part of the collective healing process is recognizing and acknowledging the significant influence that gender can have on individuals’ and groups’ experiences, sometimes with a greater negative impact on certain individuals or groups.

What Re:Masculine offerS

Research: Brendan’s academic research illuminates boys and men’s complex relationships with masculinity, emotions, and schooling. His research is designed to (1) help educators, parents, and practitioners better address and support boys and men in social, emotional, and academic-related matters, and (2) serve as a “mirror” through which boys and men can reflect on their own experiences and understandings of masculinity, emotions, and school.

Presentations + Consultation: Brendan presents on his research and related topics (e.g., gender, social-emotional well-being) in engaging, practical, and context-specific ways for middle school, high school and university students, as well as for educators and practitioners. Brendan, in collaboration with clinical counsellors, has also developed and led programs for high school boys on social-emotional learning and is available for consultation on these matters.

Please contact Brendan if interested in booking him or learning more about any of these services.

Public Engagement + Collaborations. Re:masculine is committed to creating accessible, thought-provoking, and relevant content that supports its mission, whether that be through social media accounts, podcasts, or making a concept music album about masculinity. Re:masculine is open for authentic ways to collaborate with others who align with Re:masculine’s mission and values.

Please contact if interested.